One of the greatest advantages of marriage is "inconvenience."

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Of course, there are many advantages to marriage, such as starting a family, having children, and gaining a sense of stability..
However, many people who choose to remain single cite "inconvenience" as a disadvantage of marriage—the need to be considerate and mindful of one another (including the spouse's family) while living together.
But something I have come to realize poignantly in my late 30s is this..
Nothing fosters personal growth quite like "inconvenience."
One of my biggest regrets in life is that I only ever pursued "comfort."
I thought life would become easy if I went to a good university, or that I could live a stable and easy life if I landed a certain job..
I spent all my time worrying and striving only on how to live comfortably.
Both before and after marriage, I have come to desperately realize the value of "inconvenience." And when you marry, "inconvenience" inevitably follows.
If you stay single and focus solely on yourself, will you truly grow well?
There may be some who do, but looking at most men in their mid-40s, it is certainly not easy. When you are single, no one touches you when you sleep in on weekends and scroll through your phone, and there are no restrictions when you drink late into the night or play games. Marriage provides an environment that can lead to laziness and disrupt your comfort (though this depends on the spouse, of course). In my 20s, I thought about how rewarding and disciplined I could be if I spent all the money I earned and all my leisure time solely on myself, but as I get older, I realize it doesn't work as well as you'd think.
Humans are always like that. Growth and creativity emerge from being under pressure, facing inconveniences, and dealing with constraints.
Of course, I am not saying that marriage is the solution to everything.
If you prioritize the value of seeking comfort, you should naturally live alone; after all, there are people who get divorced because they are incompatible with their spouses.
I am simply saying that the inconveniences brought by married life can be a great driving force for personal growth.
I just wrote this down haphazardly because the thought suddenly occurred to me while browsing the board.