Chiang Mai is a bit of a female-oriented city.

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It is a city that doesn't quite suit men who enjoy a wild nightlife.
To be honest, for men, going to Chiang Mai is just boring;
it is better to just go to Pattaya. If you have the money and the looks, you go to Bangkok.
Chiang Mai is exactly what women like.
There are many charming restaurants, cafes, and temples, and the cost of living is incredibly cheap.
In the winter, the weather is cooler than in central or southern Thailand, so it really fits women's tastes.
Alternatively, you often see calm men who enjoy reading and have a lower libido.
Anyway, the right Thai city depends on your personal style.