My thoughts after considering breaking off the engagement.

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Many people left comments on my post about considering breaking off the engagement, and it was a huge help in making my decision. Thank you so much!
I contacted them to say we should break off the engagement, and on the first day, I received messages trying to hold onto me, but
today, I received this KakaoTalk message saying they understand. I'm curious to know what the members of Bullpen think about this message. To be honest, I've become too emotional and can't make an objective judgment, so I'm asking for your help one more time. I'm sorry.
"OO, I've also thought about this a lot. I don't think I've ever spent this much energy and emotion thinking about something in my life.
I really liked us because we were so compatible in many ways, such as our emotions, spending habits, and sense of humor.
To me, who lacked independence and lived like a child relying entirely on my parents, you were a great support, teaching me about various youth policies and economic concepts.
Whenever my emotions fluctuated, you would call me and soothe my feelings, and you gave me so much courage when my self-esteem was low.
Because of that, I relied on you heavily, and my life became so full of you that I thought about you all day, which led me to decide on marriage.
Because of that, I think I became fearful of losing you, which led to increased suspicion and obsession.
However, I failed to grow my own capacity to hold you and instead just settled for my current reality.
As a result, I tried to rely only on you for our future together instead of thinking about growing myself.
Perhaps deep down, I dreamed of being an immature husband who relies on his wife without the personal growth that you dislike.
Because of that, you probably couldn't envision a future with me, and you kept sending me signals.
But even after knowing your intentions, I kept trying to avoid the situation and brush it off with laughter.
The incident at the train station was the trigger that caused all my accumulated worries to explode; I realized this time that it wasn't the essence of our problem.
I realized that even if I cling to you now, if this problem isn't resolved, it will eventually repeat itself.
So I thought seriously about it. Can I truly reform? Can I change?
I could lie and say I'll change, but I know myself well...
You always gave me courage, but I haven't lived a life with great passion or big ambitions; I seek a life of contentment.
Since you have much passion and ambition and have lived a life of fierce competition, I feel like you will continue to be disappointed by my nature in the future.
I struggled a lot with this part. It's true that I still miss you and love you, but even I doubt whether I can become a pillar of support that you can rely on.
Reflecting on myself this time, I realized that when I sulked or complained while living together, I was just trying to rely on and expect things from you.
I failed to consider that you were in a state where you were physically and mentally exhausted, and it was a selfish act of only thinking from my own perspective.
In the process, I kept trying to blame you instead of thinking about changing myself. Meanwhile, our arguments increased, the wounds in your heart grew, and we ended up in this situation.
Since I also realized that even if we get back together, this situation will repeat, it's very difficult, but I will respect your decision.
This has been an opportunity to look back at myself, and it has made me think a lot about my attitude toward life moving forward.
Only now do I think I understand why it was so hard for you to talk and why you wanted to hang up. Still, thank you for staying on the line until the end.
I've also thought about the housing issue. Even though it was short, it was filled with so many deep memories of us...
To be honest, because of those memories, every day has been harder, so I considered cleaning it out, but for now, I just want to live alone.
Regarding the money and other furniture issues, it will be hard to compose our emotions and stay calm, but let's try to settle our feelings a bit and discuss them together.
I wonder if you went to the hospital okay today. It has become very cold. Even if you don't want to, please make sure to apply body lotion so you don't get dry, and even if you don't feel like eating, I hope you make sure to eat."