"'I am single (unmarried) but happy' - It seems impossible to get recognition in Bullpen no matter what. .txt"

First of all, this isn't about me (I have never written a post like this before)
I've just seen hundreds of posts like this over a long period of time,
and while I don't know about other communities, it seems that at least in Bullpen, it is fundamentally difficult to receive recognition or empathy regarding this matter.
This is because of logic that sounds plausible but makes no sense, or endless, drawn-out refutations.
First, I'll skip the argument: 'If you're happy, that's all that matters, so why try to get recognition/empathy?' — because that discussion itself is meaningless.
(If we follow that logic, the very concept of needing recognition/empathy would become unnecessary for anyone making any claim in the world.
Reality is not like that.)

1. 'If you were truly happy, you wouldn't post something like this in the first place'
   -This is one of the most common refutations that falls under the 'plausible-sounding but nonsensical logic' I mentioned.
   It's something seen very frequently:
   'If you were truly happy, you wouldn't do ~~ / you'd be too busy doing ~~ / you'd be doing ~~ instead of this.'
   While there are certainly many cases where people are too happy to do such things, does that apply to everyone? That is the question.
   There must be plenty of cases where it's not the case, in other words:
   'One can be very happy currently, but also want to tell others that they are happy, and one can be happy while still having enough leisure time to write on a community site.'
   If we follow that logic, setting aside whether one is single or unmarried, it would mean every community user writing posts with the tone of 'I am happy' is actually not happy, which makes no sense.
   If you force this ridiculous, childish logic onto the opposite side, you could argue:
   'People who are truly miserable don't even have the strength to write such posts on a community site.'
   Ultimately, if that's the case, every post on the community about being happy or miserable would be a lie.
   In short, it's just a nonsensical refutation.
   One can write on a community because they are happy, or because they are miserable.
2. 'It's just mental victory / self-rationalization / sour grapes'
   -This is the part I understand the least.
   In the year 2026, which can be seen as the "new normal" where roughly half of those in their 30s and 40s are not (or cannot) marry,
   I wonder why people still don't realize that this cannot be explained by simply parroting logic like 'You're just single/unmarried because you're inadequate. The good ones were all taken long ago.'
   'It's because you're inadequate' — for this to be true, it depends on how you define 'inadequacy,' but if the previous older generation had less than 10% 'inadequate' people (I don't know the exact details), has that number increased to 50% now?
   That seems nonsensical. 'Being good or bad' is a relative evaluation, and if that logic were truly correct, even if there were changes in the objective cutoff, the fact that the proportion of those who haven't (or can't) married is 50%—occupying half the population—means it can no longer be explained by that logic alone; it must be a major socio-cultural shift.
   Common sense dictates: does it make sense that 'half the people are inadequate'? Then is the other half all great? Where do they usually go?
   And yet, there are still so many reactions to the claim in the title such as mental victory/self-rationalization/sour grapes/unmarried/single/you're inadequate, etc. No matter how much I think about it, I truly cannot understand how people are so unaware that the world has changed.
   (Of course, one could say the ~10% who 'would have been treated as inadequate even if we went back to the old days' are somewhat benefiting from this shift, haha)))
3. 'You'll become ~~ when you reach your 40s/50s/60s' (there is a trend of this age range increasing)
   Similar posts (though certainly less frequent than now) used to appear in Bullpen about 10 years ago,
   and back then, there were many reactions bordering on curses, such as 'You'll feel empty in your 40s, you'll have a reality check, you'll become ~~~.'
   As of recently, the content itself hasn't changed much.
   However, these days, the age of 40 is gradually decreasing in these posts, and the same reactions are appearing as 'You'll become ~~ when you reach your 50s.'
   I suspect that in about 10 years, they will say, 'No, it might be like that now, but you'll become ~~ when you reach your 60s.'
   Seeing this, it feels like they are performing a ritual just to wish for someone's unhappiness.
   For the record, all of this is happening in response to the very concise and simple claim of 'I am single (unmarried) but happy,' not the more common 'attacking married people to elevate oneself as a single person.'
   I really don't know why they do this, and I am purely curious about the reason.
   I am also curious to see what kind of illogical refutations will appear in this post.
   Oh, and for the record, I am neither happy nor miserable. I think I'm just moderate.